ABSTRACT

This book tackles the challenges that arise from infidelity by helping couples heal through the initial experiences of discovery, providing tools to help partners disclose the details of the affair, manage triggering experiences and obtain forgiveness and reconciliation.

Managing in the Aftermath of Infidelity is organized to speak directly to the betraying partner, the betrayed partner, and the therapist independently, offering valuable insights on how each role can assist in making recovery successful. Early chapters direct couples on how to limit potential damage from the fall out of discovery, and subsequent chapters help the couple repair and rebuild a new post-affair relationship. The strategies within this book can be used by the couple alone or as a companion to working with a therapist.

Taking the reader sequentially through the essential steps of affair recovery, this text is an essential guide for marriage counselors and their patients.

chapter 1|12 pages

Immediate Actions

chapter 3|8 pages

Contact with the Affair Partner

chapter 4|6 pages

Lying about the Affair

chapter 6|24 pages

Structured Disclosure

chapter 7|15 pages

Rebuilding Trust

chapter 8|11 pages

Managing Intrusive Thoughts and Images

chapter 9|10 pages

Managing Triggering Experiences

chapter 10|7 pages

Grieving in Isolation

chapter 11|12 pages

The Revenge Variable

chapter 12|11 pages

Erotic Recovery

chapter 13|5 pages

Reclaiming Strategies

chapter 14|12 pages

Acceptance, Forgiveness and Reconciliation

chapter 15|6 pages

Selecting a Therapist for the Two of You