In exchange, Americans who travelled or went overseas to work expected kindness from the Jews there. When Naphtali Franks was sent to London to serve as business agent for his father, the family's friends and relations served as surrogate parents to him. The relationship to one of his uncles (who had become his father-in-law) was very close and when Isaac Franks died, Naphtali grieved for him, and Abigail Franks understood her son's sorrow. The Franks also expected help for their son, Moses. In New Y ork, ] acob attempted to persuade other merchants to use his son as their London agent. The family in England, it was assumed, would welcome and help Moses there. 29
ished authority even when sons acted as commercial agents for their fathers, and financial independence made it possible for sons to go their own ways if too much pressure was exerted. Uriah Hendricks came to New York when he was eighteen years old to represent his father's business house, but in a few years broke away to form his own concern. In turn, Harrnon Hendricks started to work in the family business when he was fourteen years old. When he was twenty, his father, Uriah Hendricks, sent the young man on a tour of the states and West Indies for further training. After a year, with money saved and borrowed, Harrnon Hendricks went into his own trade business with the islands. 31
The relationship between parents and young child would seem to have been close and loving. In this matter there was also the influence of the Dutch. "The Dutch were less stringent than the New Englanders in the matter of patemal sovereignty ," and visitors commented on the freedom of the children, while "schoolmasters complained of youthful insubordination and matemal complicity in the children's mischief." Shearith Israel had to cope with the
Uriah Hendricks showed concern and interest in his daughter's welfare. After her marriage, Bannah Hendricks DeLeon suffered from poor health, and in her letters sought "to Relieve the tender anxiety for my Returninghealth which is Something mended .... " She regretfully refused her father's invitation to come home for awhile, but did thank him for a gift to her son who "sends his grandpapa a hundred kisses for it and hopes to thank him personally."34 Rache! Etting, also, wrote to her father in loving terms afterher marriage. Jacob Mordecai was a widower, separated from his daughters for a time. Much of what he wrote to them was advice on proper conduct, but he occasionally allowed his true feelings to show.