What if we still cannot agree? One of the reasons you cannot agree may be that your mode of behaviour and the mode of behaviour of the teacher are in conflict. Your behaviour and the behaviour of the teacher need to be purposeful. (See the description of purposeful behaviour below.)
Reactive behaviour is determined by the environment and is defensive in its nature. It has a past focus ('It never used to be like this', 'Appraisal never worked') and is centred around a desire to survive.