ABSTRACT
This chapter explores the theme of non-identity, through the temporal dimension of experience. Reversing the symbolic interactionist model of identity as a trajectory of positively ‘becoming’ a certain type of person, we consider the kinds of social relationships and encounters that might dissuade someone away from a potential role. This can occur through acts of commission involving conscious dis-identification: ‘becoming a non-’ by claiming never, ex- or repudiated self-identities. Meanwhile, acts of omission generate a more passive process of ‘non-becoming’, whereby a hypothetically possible identity does not materialise. These ideas are illustrated by narrative accounts of lost opportunities throughout the biographical life course, such as turning down a job offer, not cultivating an asexual identity, and choosing not to become a parent.
