ABSTRACT
The adult uses the patterns of behaviour he has learned in his youth automatically without awareness of history or its communicative impact. Yet it is generally accepted that the developing child continually learns to replace highly personalized behaviours with actions that have greater interpersonal significance. As the child develops differentiated needs, it becomes necessary for the child to send an ever-increasing amount of information or cues to his environment. As the child’s interpersonal world expands, his cues must become less idiosyncratic: the search for language begins. Different homes and different genetics produce different memories in children. Some patterns produce indifferent responses, others positive ones. Some people are typically ingratiating, others are seen as open, others as friendly or understanding or kindhearted. Sometimes after what triggers a certain pattern in a given person has been discovered, a husband, wife, or even a friend can be of help in alerting the perpetrator when the trigger becomes noticeable.
