ABSTRACT
Scholars of relational resilience contend that social bonds sometimes become stronger, not weaker, in response to adversity. Resilient families and couples may recognize that familiar patterns are no longer working, and they reorganize their relationships in response. The harm caused by the actor is accidental, attributable to recklessness, an unforeseen consequence of a partner’s behavior. A few couples described a blissful and unruffled romantic journey and some families reported few of these challenges. Researcher Sandra Metts has delved deeply into the nature of transgressions, linking them closely with violations of relational rules. Not all transgressions are created equal. Some have acute and serious ramifications, far more serious than the purloined Dustbuster reported by Jen in the opening vignette. Clinicians and researchers have identified processes that help people adapt and cope during relationship disruption. Adversity can be the catalyst for change that eventually makes people healthier and happier.
