ABSTRACT
Partners remain the absent voices in conversations about pregnancy loss. They often want to talk about their experiences but can be sidelined and ignored by healthcare staff, families, and friends. Their main role is typically being the designated carer – offering physical and practical support during and after pregnancy loss, and acting as an intermediary between patient and healthcare staff; while relaying information to family and friends. Where partners want to talk about pregnancy loss but cannot do so they may seem to others as if they are uncaring – either about the pregnancy loss or their loved one who has miscarried, had an ectopic pregnancy, or a stillbirth. There are different ways to express our self and that may be in one conversation setting out how we feel, or lots of short discussions. It does not have to be formal, but can include: checking together how we feel, offering information about our reactions, and talking about what is happening.
