ABSTRACT

Written by the award-winning author of Draw on Your Emotions, this book is designed for professionals to help people explore, communicate and learn more about themselves in light of their relationships. Many children, teenagers and adults never sit down to reflect on their relationships. As a result, they can endlessly repeat destructive relationship patterns, pick people who are bad for them, stay in deadening relationships, or destroy the lovely relationships they do have. Consequently, this book is designed to empower people to improve their quality of life by improving their relationship life.

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PREFACE

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HOW TO USE THIS BOOK

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HOW TO WORK SAFELY

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ABOUT SANDPLAY AND HOW TO USE IT

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YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

chapter 1|2 pages

You, your relationships, your life

chapter 2|2 pages

Gallery of encouragers and discouragers

chapter 3|2 pages

Your relationship as a house

chapter 4|2 pages

People in your life as gardens

chapter 5|2 pages

The cocktail party

chapter 6|2 pages

People along the way

chapter 7|4 pages

Walls and bridges

chapter 8|2 pages

Museum of too alone

chapter 9|2 pages

People as energies and atmospheres

chapter 11|2 pages

Continuum of self-confidence

chapter 12|2 pages

Relationship riches

chapter 13|2 pages

Who I am with you

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DEAD, DULL AND DRIFTING RELATIONSHIPS

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Essential theory

chapter 15|2 pages

Take off or stuck on the runway?

chapter 16|2 pages

Daring to leave

chapter 17|2 pages

Doors thrown open

chapter 18|2 pages

Why don’t they do something?

chapter 19|3 pages

Caged bird

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DEPRIVING, DRAINING, AND DISAPPOINTING RELATIONSHIPS

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Essential theory

chapter 20|2 pages

Draining energies

chapter 21|2 pages

Relationship roadblocks

chapter 22|2 pages

Seeing rarities as pearls

chapter 24|2 pages

Your relationship as feast or famine

chapter 25|2 pages

The unreachables

chapter 26|3 pages

Relationship as prison or breaking free

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GOOD CONNECTIONS, MISCONNECTIONS, FAILED CONNECTIONS

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Essential theory

chapter 27|4 pages

Moments of meeting

chapter 28|2 pages

Lost moments

chapter 29|2 pages

Disappointing conversations

chapter 30|3 pages

All the unsaid things

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LIFE-CHANGING RELATIONSHIPS

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Essential theory

chapter 31|2 pages

Group take off

chapter 32|2 pages

People you’ve been flying with

chapter 33|2 pages

Company of selves

chapter 34|5 pages

Loving in peace

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DESTRUCTIVE RELATIONSHIPS

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Essential theory

chapter 35|4 pages

The squashers and the shamers

chapter 36|2 pages

Doormat or punch bag

chapter 37|2 pages

Controlled and compliant

chapter 38|2 pages

Relationship cultures

chapter 39|2 pages

Forms of attack

chapter 40|2 pages

Gallery of difficult people

chapter 41|2 pages

Emotional baggage

chapter 43|2 pages

Haunted by anger from the past

chapter 44|2 pages

Pain of power

chapter 45|3 pages

From row to resolution

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WHEN LOVE HURTS

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Essential theory

chapter 46|4 pages

Shock states

chapter 47|2 pages

Life after losing

chapter 48|2 pages

Museum of hurt

chapter 49|4 pages

Loving someone who isn’t good at loving

chapter 50|3 pages

From yearning to screaming

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RELATIONSHIPS AND FEAR

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Essential theory

chapter 51|2 pages

Fear of excessive fragility

chapter 52|2 pages

Fear of intimacy

chapter 53|2 pages

Leaving cuts off everything

chapter 54|2 pages

Negative isolation or positive withdrawal?

chapter 55|6 pages

Fears of closeness or distance

chapter 56|3 pages

Proofs of love or affection

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THE ART OF RELATIONSHIP

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Essential theory

chapter 57|2 pages

The when you…, I feel… game

chapter 58|2 pages

The unfinished sentence game

chapter 59|1 pages

Our best and worst times

chapter 60|2 pages

Theories of motivation

chapter 61|2 pages

The I resent, I appreciate game

chapter 62|1 pages

The empathy game

chapter 63|3 pages

Getting out of psychological games

chapter 64|4 pages

Paper conversation

chapter 65|4 pages

The art of truth listening

chapter 66|3 pages

The art of relationship

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