ABSTRACT
Instructions Give each person a very large piece of paper (A1 size is ideal). Tell them that they will be working on their own for the first part of the exercise. Ask them each to draw a line down the middle of their piece of paper. On the left side of the paper write ‘Best times with you’ and on the right, ‘Worst times with you’. Give them just ten minutes (time structure adds to the safety of the exercise) to do drawings or write words for both sides of the picture. When they have finished, ask each person in turn to talk about/show what they have written or drawn. The other person must remain silent to ensure the highest quality listening. After this, both can ask any questions they like, so that they are clear about what the other person has done. The two people can then discuss what they have drawn and what the other person has drawn. Ask them to comment on what surprised them, hurt them, moved them, pleased them, etc. Here are some questions you might ask:
Having looked at both your sets of images, what have you learned about your relationship? What are the similarities and the differences in terms of what you have drawn/written?
