ABSTRACT
As young children we are inclined to explore ourselves and our environment with little fear. The role models we had when growing up will impact on our self-motivation in adulthood. It is more useful to try to understand the reasons for their lack of motivation, in order to be more compassionate and patient and to explore ways of overcoming the barriers. Avoidance is a coping strategy when people are scared of doing something, but this does nothing for confidence, as we do not give ourself a chance to build it up. Mindfulness helps with motivation as it focuses us on observing with curiosity and without judgement in the here and now. Also motivation levels can wax and wane and it may be a sign they need a break from therapy, particularly if it has been going on for a significant period of time.
