ABSTRACT
Counsellors in private practice would be less inclined to get into arguments with their clients over principles or the rights and wrongs of behaviour and so on, nevertheless it does happen and when it does it invariably affects the relationship adversely, whether it be in the short or longer term. Actually, with regard to building and maintaining good relationships, nobody wins. 'Boss managing' is the opposite of 'lead managing', which was suggested as one of the 'do's' for creating more effective relationships. Progress is thwarted and relationships become strained. Fear prevents learning and effective decision making, generates less than optimum performance, destroys relationships and impedes the effective fulfilment of 'quality worlds'. It is important to emphasize once again that the 'do's' and the 'don'ts' are suggested guidelines and not rigid 'must do's', to create a fair, firm, friendly and, most essentially, trusting counselling relationship.
