ABSTRACT
CBarbaraMyerhoff, 1982, p. 111) When I CLorraine) met with Sebastian for the first time, we had an opportunity to plant seeds with his family about his hopes for their remembering of hirn. He had delightful ideas about how he envisaged his life continuing to be important to them following his death. With his wife, two children, his grands on , and two-month-old greatgranddaughter, we spoke about his life. From his hospital bed, Sebastian shared how music had been so important to hirn and his family. He had been a music teacher and composer and each ofhis children also had a musical proclivity. They mentioned, almost in passing, that he was hoping to write music for the heavenly choir. I asked him about this. Was being in the choir an avocation that he would enjoy?
