ABSTRACT

The 40 short reflections in this book address the ways in which we face the prospect of death and loss. The first 20 reflections are designed to be read by (or to) anyone living with a life-threatening illness; the other 20 are reflections on living with grief, especially bereavement. Each reflection is based on a single story drawn from one of three sources: Dr. Kellehear's professional experience with individuals living with dying or loss; his own experiences and stories from childhood; and the retelling of some of the great myths and legends about life, love, and death, selected from around the world-from Ireland to Japan, from Melanesia to China. The book is written to be accessible to a wide general audience.It can be read from beginning to end like a conventional book; each self-contained piece is also suitable for reading on a bus, train, or plane journey, or before bed at night. Each piece can be selected as a stand-alone meditation for use as a discussion topic in pastoral care, counseling, or sermons. These reflections are stories about how we can make the most of life in the shadow of death and loss. They are designed to instill hope and meaning in the difficult times that can accompany human mortality.

part

Introduction

chapter

The Good Story of Life

part |82 pages

When death knocks at our door . . .

chapter 1|4 pages

The Tree of Life

chapter 2|4 pages

Fear and Dread

chapter 3|4 pages

Friendship

chapter 4|4 pages

The Question

chapter 5|4 pages

Near-Death Experiences

chapter 6|4 pages

The Body

chapter 7|4 pages

Sex

chapter 8|4 pages

The Burden of Peter Schlemihl

chapter 9|4 pages

Christmas with Andy

chapter 10|4 pages

Joy

chapter 11|4 pages

God

chapter 12|4 pages

Your Best Offer

chapter 13|4 pages

Monsters

chapter 14|4 pages

Astronaut

chapter 15|4 pages

Planning and Preparing

chapter 16|4 pages

A Living Thing

chapter 17|4 pages

Shareholders

chapter 18|4 pages

Your Fortune in Cairo

chapter 19|4 pages

What will it be like for you?

chapter 20|4 pages

Everlasting Things

part |42 pages

Death and society and truth and fairy tale

chapter 21|4 pages

Death: Worth Living For

chapter 22|4 pages

Death and Social Attitudes

chapter 23|4 pages

Public Notice

chapter 24|4 pages

A History Lesson

chapter 25|4 pages

Room for a View

chapter 26|4 pages

Visitor to No. 23

chapter 27|4 pages

Not Fate

chapter 28|4 pages

Life and Death

chapter 29|4 pages

Loss

chapter 30|5 pages

Eternity and Me

part |42 pages

Secrets of the clasped hands of the heart

chapter 31|4 pages

Grief

chapter 32|4 pages

The Legend of the White Butterfly

chapter 33|4 pages

Death Pact

chapter 34|4 pages

Folly

chapter 35|4 pages

Concerning Tears

chapter 36|4 pages

Not Being There

chapter 37|4 pages

The First Friend

chapter 38|4 pages

Missing and Hoping

chapter 39|4 pages

The Comfort of Darkness

chapter 40|6 pages

To Honor Their Memory

part |4 pages

Parting Words

chapter |2 pages

At Day’s End