ABSTRACT
This chapter discusses the process and techniques of exploring the original dreams/wishes/fantasies each partner brought into the relationship. It explores the “bargain” that was struck and why/how the infidelity broke that agreement. Techniques for exploring the emotions that result from this broken trust are discussed. Finally, the chapter provides a discussion of methods to guide a couple toward creating new, shared dreams and a “new deal” for the relationship. Techniques that explore these often unspoken desires are also presented. And while this is the beginning of treatment for infidelity, it is also an important end point as well. It is the renewed dream, wish, or fantasy that the couple decides to work toward together that ultimately will allow them to be successful.
