ABSTRACT
This chapter provides a brief idea of how children come to realize which adults in their lives are experts about grief. Offering children a simple explanation about the normalcy of numb and stunned reactions and their purposes often reduces or eliminates the aversive effects of children’s misinterpretation of their numb and stunned reactions. Parents should accept a diagnosis of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder for their children only after appropriate assessments have been completed which would include a cognitive assessment, neuro-psychological assessment, achievement assessment, and a complete history of their children’s development, especially loss experiences. Children’s attempts to re-create those lost experiences are a normal grief reaction designed to fail. Children often feel anger when a loved one dies, which is part of normal process of mourning. Anguish is the most difficult of the grief emotions for parents to allow their children to experience.
