ABSTRACT

Conflict Narratives in Middle Childhood presents evidence from twenty years of research, examining nearly 3,000 narratives from 1,600 children in eight settings in two countries about their own experiences with interpersonal conflict. Close readings, combined with systematic analysis of dozens of features of the stories reveal that when children are invited to write or talk about their own conflicts, they produce accounts that are often charming and sometimes heartbreaking, and that always bring to light their social, emotional, and moral development. Children’s personal stories about conflict reveal how they create and maintain friendships, how they understand and react to the social aggression that threatens those friendships, and how they understand and cope with physical aggression ranging from the pushing and poking of peers to criminal violence in their neighborhoods or families. Sometimes children describe the efforts of adults to influence their conflicts - efforts they sometimes welcome and sometimes resist. Their stories show them ‘taking on’ gender and other cultural commitments. We are not just watching children become more and more like us as they move through the elementary school years - we are watching them become the architects of a future we will only see to the extent that we understand their way of making sense.

chapter |10 pages

Introduction: “What I've been in is a lot of conflicts”

Story-Sharing and Making Sense of Conflict in Middle Childhood

part I|36 pages

Listening to Children's Stories About Their Own Conflicts

chapter 1|14 pages

Why Conflict? Why Narrative?

A Theoretical Framework for the Study of Peer Conflict Narratives in Middle Childhood

chapter 2|20 pages

“What are you going to do with our stories?”

Collaborating With Children to Understand Peer Conflict

part II|149 pages

How Children Describe Their Own Conflicts

chapter 3|42 pages

“Fighting about friend ship”

Figuring Out What It Means to Be a Friend

chapter 4|20 pages

“She would kerce me out practedly every day”

Social Aggression in Elementary School

chapter 5|22 pages

“Because the buyer had a gang in the dark corners of all around”

Making Sense of a Violent World

chapter 6|21 pages

“I told my mom & she helped comfort me”

The Roles Children Give to Adults in Their Stories

chapter 7|26 pages

“Little girl, I was not talking to you!”

Taking on Gender in Middle Childhood

chapter 8|16 pages

“From that day on I became more responsible”

Creating the Self and Re-Creating Culture in Middle Childhood

part III|46 pages

Applying the Lessons Learned From Children's Stories of Conflict

chapter 10|12 pages

Beyond Literacy Skills

Story-Writing Facilitates Social, Emotional, and Moral Development

chapter 11|19 pages

“It is okay to have conflicts, the most important thing is to know how to solve conflicts”

The Critical Role of Conflict Narratives in Human Development