ABSTRACT
One of the hardest questions a couple asks after an infidelity is, “Should I stay or should I go?” The indecision surrounding whether to work through their issues or to find a way to move on with their lives can last for months, or even years, after an affair. The challenge is that when a couple stays in the gray zone, it keeps them trapped. They are unable to work at the relationship effectively because they are afraid they might get hurt. They are also unwilling to take steps toward divorce because the decision seems too final and overwhelming. In this chapter, Angela Skurtu teaches clinicians specific interventions for how to help couples make this decision. Angela Skurtu also offers suggestions for motivating clients when they cannot make the decision. She uses concepts such as motivational interviewing and radical acceptance as a means to guide individuals and couples towards change. In the end, clinicians will learn how to help couples make a wise choice for their lives, regardless of the outcome.
