ABSTRACT
One of the challenges a couple faces is repairing resentments or problems that existed in the relationship prior to the infidelity. Once someone has committed an affair, the hurt partner gets focused on the betrayal. Sometimes, the couple have struggled with other problems prior to the affair. Often, the unfaithful partner needs to know these problems will be addressed in order to really commit to the relationship again. These problems can include communication issues, trouble blending families, sexless marriages, intimacy issues, financial struggles, high levels of criticism/defensiveness, or parenting differences. All of these problems can have an effect on the relationship going forward if they are not resolved. In this chapter, Angela Skurtu discusses way in which clinicians can help couples resolve these problems. Angela Skurtu also offers tips for staying neutral and avoiding blame. Finally, Angela Skurtu explores how to work with those couples who were not experiencing problems present prior to the affair.
