ABSTRACT
Benjie, a 30-year-old married man, father of two infant twins, lives on a kibbutz. He was referred to me for depression and anxiety, which clearly affected his occupational and family life. He also complained of sudden outbursts of anger towards his 29-year-old wife, whom he loved, a teacher at a regional school. Benjie presented as a handsome, well-groomed man who was guarded in his words, somewhat suspicious at first in his relationship towards me. He was quite demanding, sometimes challenging me, almost fearful that I may not have understood him during every minute of our engagement. Anxieties mixed with sadness were the predominant features seen at first. I sometimes began to feel quite frustrated by him. I felt that he needed constantly to be on guard, to monitor and control his environment, and me.
