chapter  11
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Get a Grip

How a psychotherapist’s postpartum depression disrupted the illusion of the idealized mother and changed forever what it means to “hold”
WithKristin A. Reale

L. D. Blum notes that there is a kind of "trifecta" psycho-dynamically that leads to postpartum depression. This causal "trifecta" includes women who have difficulties in expressing their own anger, unmet dependency wishes and needs, and a very conflictual relationship with their own mother. As all crises are, being struck by postpartum depression was an incredible life-changing experience. Postpartum mood disorders go quite far beyond postpartum depression. In fact, most women do not feel depressed, but instead feel overwhelming anxiety, panic, agoraphobic and obsessive compulsive symptoms, and psychosis. A. Dally focuses on a very important turning point in the conception of the mother—the post-World War II shift—which she attributes to the impact of John Bowlby's work on attachment and bonding. She states that Bowlby's work resulted in an idealization or over-idealization of motherhood and influenced a movement toward the intense sole dyadic relationship of mother and baby.