ABSTRACT
Dysregulated couples require considerable coaching at first, with less intervention on our part as they acquire the more sophisticated self and coregulatory capacities they would have ideally developed in childhood. Our initial goal is to actively assist, then to teach them how to regulate themselves and, finally, to help them coregulate with one another at moments of distress. Through practice, higher neural regions on the right become better at turning down more primitive centers of arousal, improving the individual’s capacity for regulation, discernment, and impulse control (Beer & Lombardo, 2007).
