chapter  5
Violence in Early Adulthood and Beyond: Violence Between Intimate Partners
Pages 48

A review of personal ads in most any newspaper or other periodical that includes them would suggest that what people want and expect in romantic relationships is friendship, warmth, security, and company to do the things they like with a “special” someone. Often people are also looking for long-term commitments and perhaps certain physical, fi nancial, or personality traits in their partners-to-be. One might note an occasional reference to past problem experiences with bullies or chauvinists (e.g., “I am my own woman”), but one would rarely encounter or expect to encounter something like: “NO Violence Wanted.” Rather, it is expected, or even assumed, that violence is not going to be a part of any wanted relationship.1