ABSTRACT
As child professionals, whether youth support workers, teachers, or therapists, the authors are aware of the importance of attuning with the child, helping the child regulate his arousal, validating his experiences and emotions, and providing new positive experiences for the child. In their work with children, the authors help them learn to regulate their arousal, to move back from over arousal and to move up from under arousal, remember their discussion about the window of receptivity. The parents who work with the child professionals, youth support workers, teachers or therapists are going to be discouraged and, very likely, will revert to or continue in old negative parenting patterns. Even when parents want to parent differently and decide to parent differently, old patterns persist. This is to be expected, old patterns come from well-used neuronal networks inside the parent's brain.
