ABSTRACT
The majority of mourners and caregivers have unrealistic expectations of the ease and speed at which the bereaved person should get over the grief. People stated that grieving people have internalized society's message that grief should be done quietly and quickly. Some researchers have attempted to set definitive dates as to when mourning should be completed. The results are misleading and inconclusive. Problems are inherent in the nature of the research. Then, interviewed even a week or several months later and then report extensive distress. This wavelike quality to the experience is common. A transition to another dimension of mourning may bring a renewal of normal signs and symptoms of acute grief. A number of studies are misleading in that they follow the bereaved person for a specific period of time, typically two years. Perhaps the most effective way to determine the mourners movement toward reconciliation is to assess what was previously termed 'needs of reconciliation' or tasks of mourning.
