chapter  4
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The Construction of Relationship Realities

In many ways, Blak:e's musings depict the platonic ideal of the romantic experience. Swept up in the experience of Iove, trusting, satisfied intimates see the best in their partners' virtues while being charitably, perhaps sensibly, immune to their faults. But, many psychologists would dispute this depiction-arguing instead that individuals' realistic understanding and acceptance of their partners' actual attributes represents the true ideal (e.g., Brickman, 1987; Swann, Hixon, & De La Ronde, 1992). However, our sympathies lie with Blake.