Gender and Thought in Relationships
This scenario is an illustration of how partners can have different views of the same relationship. Moreover, as the reader rnay have noted, we have deliberately chosen descriptions that retlect stereotypical gender differences as often depicted in the rnedia and acadernic sources. One partner (Mary) has been socialized to see interactions with her partner as having implications for the quality oftheir relationship. The other partner (John) has been socialized to think about the rnarital relationship only when there is a problern that needs to be solved. These differences in socialization could presurnably lead
partners to have different mental models of their relationships and to behave differently in close relationships as weil. Convergent evidence of such links between gender, knowledge structures, and behavior within close relationship setrings can be found in the Iiterature in the close relationships arena, and in other psychological domains, and are examined in this chapter.