Some Thoughts and Findings on Self-Presentation of Emotions in Relationships
Much of the emotion we experience in everyday life arises in the context of our social relationships (Averill, 1982; de Rivera, 1984; Scherer, Wallbott, & Summerfield, 1986; Schwartz & Shaver, 1987; Trevarthen, 1984). Consider anger, for example. Averill (1982) surveyed community residents regarding their experiences of anger and found that more than three quarters of the instances of anger reported involved another person. Csik.szentmihalyi and his colleagues came to a similar conclusion regarding the experience of happiness. They gave adolescents and adults electronic pagers and asked them, among other things, how they were feeling each time they were randomly beeped during the day. Both adolescents and adults were more lik.ely to report feeling happy when with friends than when they were alone (Csikszentmihalyi & Larson, 1984; Larson, Csikszentmihalyi, & Graef, 1982). Finally, Babad and Wallbott (1986) found not only that anger and joy were more likely to occur in social than in nonsocial contexts, but they also found the same was true for sadness.