chapter  1
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The Need for Anesthesia

This price can be paid in several ways. Sometimes the survivor will disclose to only one or two family members. Very quickly the survivor learns that to be part of the family he or she must make peace with the abuse and keep quiet about his or her feelings. Other survivors feel that they simply must disclose the abuse. After telling others outside of the family system about the sexual abuse, the survivor may find that some family members may have joined forces against the survivor. The survivor is then ostracized from the family. Readmission into the family circle requires that the survivor recant their allegations ofthe sexual abuse. Nothing polarizes a family as much as allegations of sexual abuse.