The Paradoxical Theory of Change
Change is paradoxical in the Gestalt approach ... If a person is constantly trying to improve, that person is focusing on a gestalt about "trying" that will never be finished. That person changes only by stopping the attempts at improvement and by allowing him or herself to be exactly what he or she is, thus opening the way to confront unfinished gestalten. The only way unfinished gestalten may be completed is by affirming the truth, no matter what it is .... Persons can only be what they are. When they are totally in the present, they do not have a sense of change and yet, they are changing.!