ABSTRACT
This chapter discusses author's view on how he stopped worrying and learned to have love pleasure. The author 'lost' his 'virginity' at age fifteen and hasn't had the decency to regret it. The party he attended was for a men's sports team; the coaches provided the alcohol. The silence around men's drinking is, of course, part of a larger 'boys will be boys' culture, one that played a large part in his assault. We already know something that doesn't work: blaming and shaming women. This is the very culture that supports acquaintance rape to begin with, the very culture feminists have been working to dismantle for decades. The author addresses to take self-defense not blaming the victim, or putting the responsibility on the woman. Because literally no one in his whole life had told him that his body could work in his own defense.
