ABSTRACT
This chapter explores real-life questions and issues that lesbians have about dating, sex, love, and relationship longevity. It analyses the relationship between Barb and her lesbian partner and continues to go round and round on the subject of solitude. Barb feels threatened by solitude of her partner. The least we can do to make our relationships work a little better is to take a break from them, as often as we can. Life with Maureen is what changed all of that. Maureen takes off several times a year on various trips. In fact, she's gone right now on a two-week trip to Minnesota to visit her family. What was true was that we had a pretty balanced relationship with time together and time apart but some of the time that Maureen spent by me. One of these "extremes" was resenting Maureen for abandoning me. He had a repertoire of other extremes work aholism, chronic busyness, obsessive community activism.
