chapter  5
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“The thought, 'will I regret it when I’m old?’ is impossible to avoid . . . because it’s just out there”: Symbolic Politics II

One narrator alerted me to the fact that " the notion o f compen­ satory means that there is a standard that you’re not meeting.” She spoke o f the oppressive nature o f such an assumption:

People talk about us as whatever we’re doing is compensatory. The reason I’m working so hard is that I’m compensating for not having children-that’s the oppression and being ostracized. And I do get a lot of that. “She works all the time, no wonder she publishes all that. I wouldn’t like to be like that. I wouldn’t want to be so single-mind­ ed because that’s not a balanced personality.”