ABSTRACT
In this chapter, the author explores communication and explains how to overcome the barriers to noncontrolling communication. Good communication is one tool that can be used in a variety of situations to take the place of old strategies of abuse and control. In relationships in which one partner is abusive, the communication becomes another tool of control and avoidance of responsibility through blame, minimization, and denial. Each mode of interaction has its own verbal and nonverbal behaviors, goals, feelings, impact on others, and outcomes. In working with battering intervention groups, the author have found that being able to distinguish each person's mode of communication is very helpful in being able to be a good communicator. Communication exists in many forms: verbal, nonverbal, and written. Being a good listener is a necessary component in the greater goal of being a good communicator.
