ABSTRACT

This chapter provides an opportunity for people's to take a look at their experience with violence. It revises the exercises and stories for achieving nonviolence. The exercises include the continuum of controlling behaviors, personal continuum of violence, common bonds of the experience of violence and defeating the dead-end brain. The continuum of controlling behaviors exercise focuses specifically on people's beliefs and behaviors that are considered violent, abusive, and controlling. Many men have learned that violence is an acceptable and useful way to behave and solve problems. Although it is not an excuse for being abusive, many men have experienced violence, either from peers or their family of origin. The purpose of common bonds of the experience of violence is to look at experiences of violence in people's life, whether it is from societal expectations or family of origin.