ABSTRACT

Divorcing parents pursue avenues derived from societal norms and sanctions of the legal system. Because divorce is a legal process, many individuals make the assumption that the divorce itself has to be adversarial. When parents abdicate their power to the judge to determine the structure of their family, the courtroom becomes fertile ground for battle. Under these circumstances, the judge and attorneys expect to see conflict between divorcing parents and sometimes even encourage it though courtroom dramatics. However, even if the attorneys are not adding fuel to the fire, sometimes parental anger does. Pressure from angry family members who are offering to pay for the legal expenses can also fuel litigation. Anger often encourages ongoing litigation. Nonetheless, extended and heated battles adversely affect the child’s adjustment. Consequently, the child’s needs are sacrificed in the cross fire.