ABSTRACT

In this chapter, we drill down into the micro-process again by providing a transcript of a session with Jane and Henry. The chapter opens with a discussion of the challenges in working with couples versus with individuals. Next, we meet Jane and Henry, who have been married for a long time, but are struggling because Jane can’t let go of the past. Through the transcript, we show how to balance so neither partner feels left out, and then we show how to drill down to uncover each individual’s emotional wounds, and finally we show how these wounds are being triggered and are creating a negative loop. The chapter also shows how to change the emotional climate and lays out the next steps in clinical treatment.