ABSTRACT
Self-acceptance means the person refuses to rate themself on the basis of their traits, actions, achievements and disappointments, but they do rate those aspects of themself that they wish to change. Internalizing self-acceptance provides long-term psychological stability, but not unwaveringly so, and quickens the process of self-righting. The prospect of change is often more appealing than the hard work involved in achieving it. In order to ingrain new productive thoughts and behaviours, the person needs to develop high frustration tolerance (HFT). This is the ability to endure in times of uncertainty, upheaval and distress without continually complaining how difficult the struggle is or lapsing into self-pity every time a new setback or difficulty is encountered. Ironically, people who avoid experiencing discomfort are demonstrating an unproductive form of HFT because they keep complaining about the discontents in their life but do little or nothing to deal with them – endurance without achieving any beneficial results.
