ABSTRACT
Because the principles of Choice Theory and Reality Therapy are universal, they apply to the most intimate of relationships, such as marriage and the family. A skilled user of Reality Therapy applies a three-step methodology to relationship counselling: assessment, intervention and action. Reality Therapy applied to relationship counselling includes two major interventions: determining the strength of the five needs and the use of quality time as a foundation for closeness. The high-intensity need for belonging in both people is probably conducive to a good relationship, but a high need for power in both partners could spell trouble. From a different perspective, enhancing the relationship can serve as an effective antidote to domestic violence. When the relationship is strained, constructive criticism is an oxymoron. The urge to speak one's mind can accelerate the downward spiral of the relationship. In building relationships emphasis is put on discussing common interests, areas of agreement and activities which are pleasant.
