ABSTRACT
Sometimes loss is so painful that you feel a need to do something, but what? At an earlier time, a more religious time, some people would go to church when services were not being conducted and just sit in the darkness of that place. We could weep there without anyone noticing. We could take hold of the silence and the darkness and rub both against the soul, attempting to warm a cold grief. We could talk to God, or we could talk to the one we miss and love. We might even do nothing, just sit blankly, using the darkness as a port in the storm of our inner turbulence and sadness. So few of us are religious any more that the church is a difficult place to visit or, for some, a place that may evoke old and unpleasant memories. Even so, many go to these places and tell no one that they do.
