chapter  8
20 Pages

Once a Twin, Always a Twin: Implications for Psychotherapy

I’ve always responded anxiously when various therapists have talked about boundary issues. I’ve always thought there was something very wrong or bad about me when I felt them insinuate, and sometimes say straight out, that I had boundary issues. Boundary issues are di¢erent for twins and non-twins. To hear a therapist identify boundary issues seemed like an admonition that I was wrong, bad, too dependent, or didn’t have a strong enough sense of myself. It always felt so cold to have this person I went to for help dismiss what was so natural to me as something I was doing wrong. Even to this day, when I think about having boundary issues, I feel diminished.