chapter  14
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Non-Monogamy in Queer BDSM Communities: Putting the Sex Back into Alternative Relationship Practices and Discourse


Among the members of the dyke+1/queer BDSM2 communities non-monogamous relationship styles are so prevalent, that the monogamy norm is practically reversed and the monogamous minority at times feels peer-pressured to try out non-monogamy. In this chapter I am interested in looking more closely at the possible connection between being into alternative sexualities, exemplifi ed by BDSM, and alternative ways of relating. Countering some of the anti-promiscuity and sex-negativity tendencies in current polyamory discourse (cf. Klesse, 2006a) I want to highlight the possibilities alternative sexual communities provide us with in terms of non-monogamous relationship styles.