As you begin to see the world through your children’s eyes, you will become aware of the pain they experience. Old ways of dealing with that pain will be diﬃ cult to avoid. You may feel your rescue button pushed or you may detach yourself from your child. To be emotionally connected with our children requires us to be emotionally connected with ourselves. Th is becomes a problem because all of us try to escape our feelings at times. Our desire to deny or distract ourselves from our feelings is so strong that we can even use good things as a way to disconnect ourselves from emotions. For example, exercise or religion, two of the healthiest ways to cope with diﬃ cult emotions, can become as powerful and as insidious an addiction as any drug if used to escape our emotions rather than deal with them.