chapter  25
How Clients Change Their Therapists
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We have added one more member to our team in order to bring our journey to an end. We have been practicing therapy for over three decades, and doing interviews like those found in this book for the past five years; Mary is a graduate student and relative neophyte. We thought it important to consider the implications of these stories not only for experienced practitioners, but also for those who are just beginning in this field. After all, the messages we received when first starting outessentially that therapists don’t change in therapy, and if they do, it is only because we have been negligent and naughty in not maintaining appropriate boundaries-are in marked contrast to the themes that you have just read in this book. Not only do our field’s most prominent theoreticians feel changed by their work, and especially by some of their clients, but they appear to be quite grateful for these interactions. This is not at all merely within the domain of countertransference, in which therapist changes are framed as projections or inappropriate personal reactions.