Most disabilities come equipped with drooping breasts, a thin rib cage and a lax-tum, due to a lack of muscle… The inability of the disabled person to be purely physical, showing body movement, posture…can be a great disadvantage within the ‘market place’ of relationships. (Campling, 1981:17) I did feel less sexually attractive, because I was surrounded by metal and wheels and had no control over my body, bladder and bowels. I needed help with absolutely everything and couldn’t see how men could find me sexually attractive. (Morris, 1989:82)
With very little attention given to the positive aspects of a person’s appearance and a tendency to reduce the body to an asexual object, disabled women learn very early on that their bodies can be objects which are manipulated and controlled by others (Boston Women’s Health Book Collective, 1984).