ABSTRACT
This chapter highlights some of the many issues that children and young people are facing daily within their lives. Schools are employing more counsellors and therapists to cope with the growing demand of issues that young people face. A natural reaction on being faced with someone being rude to you is to take offence. Especially when it is someone who you naturally think should be showing you respect because of your position within school, or simply because of age. People are less likely to be defiant with you if you have a good relationship with them and they feel you are treating them with respect, that you value and listen to them. Defiance provides them with an alternative way to examine their own low self-esteem. They may also be deflecting away from the learning task because of their lack of ability. They may be anxious that if they conform, more will then be asked of them.
