Accept Ambivalence: “It’s Okay Not to Change”
A patient’s implicit or explicit desire to avoid change can be reframed as an effective therapeutic opening. This chapter describes how to utilize a patient’s ambivalence around change as an opportunity to explore their motivations and ambivalences. This technique helps both the clinician and patient better understand seemingly destructive behaviors and how to eventually overcome them. The patient feels supported, the clinician avoids the frustrating feeling of having hit a dead end, and their relationship grows more collaborative rather than adversarial.