ABSTRACT
The baby does make a difference to all experiences and relationships within the family, the baby changes things because essentially the family has changed from one, to two, to three. The three things that the author thinks are essential are that the environment must be safe, reliable, and truthful. Making a safe place for a baby is very important and needs active thinking and work to make it so. One of the most significant things that parents do is to protect the child. Protecting the baby so that he feels that his internal world is safe is related to the sense of going on being. The baby was overwhelmed by a sense of uncertainty, a difficulty in letting go and a difficulty taking in—all aspects of an unheld and powerful anxiety. Truthfulness is based on respect, being aware of one’s own thinking, being aware of the baby’s thinking and working towards understanding it, however young the baby.
