ABSTRACT
I needed to sort out my thoughts and convey to him that I wasn’t happy with our status quo. I chose an onion first because they have layers, second because I know he hates onions, and third because they make you cry. I diagramed the way I felt. at night the problem started with him being out at the bar WITH his friends and WITHOUT me. But it wasn’t just about him having fun without me, the problem reached much deeper into our relationship. at night, instead of just being honest about how I felt, I turned into a passive aggressive (or maybe outwardly aggressive) bitch. We had done this upset/passive aggressive cycle so many times we even had a code word for when we were starting to feel it-salt and pepper. “I felt salt and peppered tonight,” I finally texted him. His reply: “Me, too, but I don’t know why.” We had a lengthy text and phone conversation about how the night played out; the cycle needed to be broken. I was so tired of fighting with him and just wanted to get at the heart of why we’d been bickering so often. We decided to talk through the issue the next day, but I still couldn’t sleep.
