ABSTRACT
In this chapter, I contend that while we have understood how the queer body can be desired, we have not yet understood how queer persons can be loved. If we assume (as I will do for now) that romantic love is intrinsically connected to sexual desire, and that one of its salient features (and perhaps the salient feature) is erotic attraction to embodied persons—and that all bodies must be gendered bodies and that embodiment presupposes gender—then queer love is either nothing more than depersonalized desire, or it is disembodied love with no intrinsic connection to sexual desire.
