Feeling is in itself a generic motive power; instinct is physiological feeling, emotion is psychological feeling. The child begins its feelings of emotional attachment on a purely selfish basis. But as sex is not only a physiological phenomenon but also a psychological one, the same attraction and polarity regulates the emotional life as well as the physical one. Women are notoriously the butt of men's aggression and their emotional victims. In general, however, the dependence on the other person for emotional satisfaction is so great that reality can scarcely provide the requirements. The real meaning of the word "romance" is wondrous, exciting, or beyond the limits of reality. The cause is, in reality, the same as of being in love itself. It is traumatic, and from a trauma of a severe emotional nature sustained in childhood.